Tuesday, January 5, 2016
There are probably better ways to broach this subject, but I'll just come right out and say it. Why do Torah Observant people look at young ladies wrong, when she tells them that she's single, but not actively searching, because she is working on a small career? Many married, T. O. women, teach their daughters that their place is only in the home. They say that girls should only focus on home making skills, and work on her spirituality. Mothers almost loose their minds when their daughter tells them they want to look into a career. For some reason mothers automatically think you're saying that you don't want to be a wife and mother that G-D created women for. I know, because my mother acted the same way. She told me that a woman's place was mainly in the home, and that the only acceptable jobs to have as a home maker are; Being a writer from home, having an Etsy shop, volunteering, (which I have nothing against, because I've volunteered), baby-sitting, being a nanny, and going to Israel to help during their harvest time. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with any of these jobs, we're just not encouraged to obtain anything bigger than these jobs.
Young women like myself shouldn't be told that the only acceptable career is becoming a stay at home mom. We should feel encouraged to become doctors, lawyers, cosmetologists, mechanics, engineers, builders, architects, medics, chefs, soft wear designers, wedding planners, event planners, fashion designers, inventers, shop owners, investors, interior designers, whatever you feel G-D is leading you to become. You can still be a attentive mother with most of those jobs, some of those other jobs might require your future husband to be the stay at home spouse, and some of them require less amount of work that no one would notice that you have another job, besides being a home maker.
Young men aren't the only ones who want to become something great. Young men have so much support in achieving a career, and its time young women received the same amount of support and encouragement. Many of you may not like this comparison, but I'm going to say it anyways. Torah Observant people think that they treat their women and girls better than all the middle eastern countries do, and to a certain degree they do, but there isn't a lot of difference.
Torah Observant men and women both believe that women should only be wives, mothers, and home makers. Torah Observant women are aloud to show more skin, (I have nothing against modesty), they have to cover their hair if they're married, but now single women are doing it now too, only G-D knows why. Torah Observant women are treated with a lot more respect and honor, but that is the only difference of how Arab men and Torah Observant men treat women.
Parents should be supportive and do everything possible to help their daughters become whatever G-D has called them to be, no matter the career.
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First, I would have to disagree with your observation that most Torah observant people believe women should be homemakers. From what I have seen, this belief is among the minority - even though the Torah is very clear that daughters are at home under their father's authority and then wives are at home under their husband's authority. There is no example of women in the Torah developing their own careers, and I believe the only example we have of young women "on their own" are the harlots. Then we move on to the Brit Chadasha, where the women are instructed to learn to love their husbands and children and be keepers of their homes. It is impossible to be focused on a career outside the home and be a homemaker. Believe me, just working from home can be time consuming enough to make it difficult to be a successful homemaker. So Scripturally-speaking, there really isn't any support for the idea that women should pursue a career or work outside the home, and there is ample evidence to the contrary.
ReplyDeleteSecond, women don't belong in the workforce, especially not together with men. HUGE mistake. According to statistics, 50%-75% of adulterous relationships happen with someone in the workplace. Studies show that before 1985, the statistics divorce rates were about equal among working and homemaking women; however, between 1985 and 1992, the annual probability of divorce among employed wives exceeded that for non-employed wives by 40 percent. If you look at history, you find that between the rise of feminism (equal job opportunities for women) and WW2 (men away to fight and women needing to work outside the home) ... families really started to fall apart. When the wife and mother is outside of the home, it causes chaos. And, like Titus 2 says, it causes to Word of God to be blasphemed. It is very rare that God ever leads anyone to go against the principles that He has put forth in His Word. I won't say it doesn't happen, but it is only on very rare and unusual occasions. Therefore I believe it is a mistake to say "whatever you feel G-D is leading you to become." The key word there is "feel". It's dangerous to be led by feelings, especially when they contradict His Word.
Third, to even hint that there isn't a lot of difference between the way Torah observant women are treated and Muslim women are treated is absurd and just wrong! There is absolutely no comparison. Since when are Torah observant women not allowed to go out of their houses without a male relative and covered from head to toe? Since when have you seen Torah observant women being beaten, sold, or killed for being raped?
In conclusion, I would recommend a detailed study of feminism and its affect on our world today in conjunction with a detailed study the Bible has to say about women. I'm all for entrepreneurial options for ladies and have several of them myself. But once we lose sight of the importance of our role in the home, we open the door to the enemy. Part of our role as a keeper of the home is to guard it against him. And we can't do that when our focus is outside of it!
Its possible for a young woman to have a career until she meets her future husband. When a girl says she wants to work until she married, she's saying no to waiting around for Mr. Right. YHVH didn't create women just to be stay at home mothers. YHVH is the one who gives us our talents and and He is one who leads us in the career path He wants for us. So girls that want jobs while they're single, aren't saying no to wife and motherhood.
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