The To Do While Single List

 Why can't we, Torah Observant ladies enjoy being single? Christian and non Christian ladies are encouraged to enjoy their singleness. I think we spend too much time learning to be wives, mothers, and finding husbands. Why not make a long list of things we want to do, or accomplish while we're single. We'll call it our "To Do While Single" list. Here's a few things I want to accomplish.

                               To DO While Single List
 
                               1. Visit all 50 States
                               2. Go on a trip with a friend
                               3. Write a novel
                               4. Get a painted Henna tattoo
                               5. Create an Etsy shop 
   
  After you make your list, turn it into a race to complete before you meet Mr. Right.  I'm positive you'll enjoy your singleness much more, and it won't seem like a horrible thing to be. Having a few friends that are single also helps you to be content. Singleness also gives you more time to grow closer to YAHWEH. It also helps you to work on your other relationships with family and friends. 


  It's still okay to be a little unhappy during your singleness period. You're human, and a young woman. You're going to be unhappy some days when you see acquaintances getting engaged, marrying, and having children. You might ask yourself; am I not attractive enough, am I too shy, do I have a character flaw, am I too boy crazy, or do I chase the boys too much? The reason you're single could be one, a few, or all of those things. Maybe YAHWEH wants you to be single, so you can follow HIS plan. YAHWEH'S plan isn't always the plan we want for our lives, but HE does know best, and all HE asks, is that we trust in HIM.

  I myself have gone through phases where I except my singleness, become content, and start to really enjoy being single. Until I go on Facebook, or Istagram and see a friend switch their status to "in a relationship, engaged, getting married, or pregnant." I used to hide that friend for a time, until I got over it, then unhide them. There were also a few times that I cried, because I've wanted it to happen to me, and not my friend. So many of my friends are in relationships, engaged, married, and pregnant now. I finally came to terms that it doesn't matter how much you want it. If YAHWEH doesn't want it to be you, then you have to accept that. No amount of praying or pleading will make HIM change HIS mind. HE'LL let you know when it's your time. 

  That doesn't mean that I don't feel a little disappointed when a friend changes they're single status. I do, but I do something to cheer myself up. We should thank YAHWEH every day that we're single, so that we can grow closer to HIM. We should have a close relationship with HIM before we marry. Sometimes we can only lean and count on YAHWEH. People will come and go, make us happy, and disappoint us. But HE will always be there for us, and never disappoint us. So we CAN trust in HIM, we just have to let go and let HIM take control.